Here’s a technique I learned from Danie Beaulieu that’s unmatched for dealing with self-esteem issues, mainly for cases of people who have been psychologically battered by others (I mean “battered” in the figurative sense).
Here’s how to run the pattern with your client:
- Grab some cash (I personally love hundred dollar bills)
- Show the money to your client
- Ask: “How much is this worth?” This will interrupt the client’s pattern. Your client will say “One hundred dollars.”
- Then, crumple up the money, spit on it, toss it behind you and then step on it.
- Ask your client: “Do you feel like that at times?” Observe client’s reaction.
- Pick up the money, open it up with care and attention, and show it to your client once more.
- Ask: “How much is this worth now?”
- Client will answer: “One hundred dollars.”
- Hold out the bill in front of your client so (s)he can see it clearly. Future pace by saying: “And anytime you see a hundred dollar bill, no matter what’s happened to it, you’ll remember that it’s still worth a hundred dollars.”
This experiential metaphor is incredibly powerful. Allow the client to go through the experience and draw his/her own conclusions without explaining anything.
Do you know anyone who got run over by life and needs a self-esteem boost? Test this pattern and let us know in the comments how it worked out.
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