This evening I met a mature philosophy student, Sikh by birth and exploring about six spiritual paths at the same time, varying from Tantrism which urges him to indulge in sensual pleasures, and Gnosticism which is all about renouncing them.
Unsurprisingly, he's confused in the midst of all this. He believes he's not ready for the world of work, and is tempted to go to India to study with a guru. His current lifestyle is enabled by his ability to get funding for his studies, and he's adept at living on a low income.
Obviously, I'm making value judgements about this guy, and I don't pretend otherwise. To me, he seemed more lost than anyone I've met in a long time, articulate and introspective but unable to come to a conclusion about anything.
Many NLP approaches are based around making people feel good to make decisions, but this guy is suspicious of good feelings and has a seemingly endless ability to prevaricate. I'm not drawn to intervening in his situation since it's none of my business, though I would if he asked me to.
How do you go about working with someone who isn't prepared to use feeling good as the foundation for making choices? Similarly, depending on what model you prefer, he was neither congruent nor centred, and sees no reason to be so -- what do you do in such a case?
[Read more...]Unsurprisingly, he's confused in the midst of all this. He believes he's not ready for the world of work, and is tempted to go to India to study with a guru. His current lifestyle is enabled by his ability to get funding for his studies, and he's adept at living on a low income.
Obviously, I'm making value judgements about this guy, and I don't pretend otherwise. To me, he seemed more lost than anyone I've met in a long time, articulate and introspective but unable to come to a conclusion about anything.
Many NLP approaches are based around making people feel good to make decisions, but this guy is suspicious of good feelings and has a seemingly endless ability to prevaricate. I'm not drawn to intervening in his situation since it's none of my business, though I would if he asked me to.
How do you go about working with someone who isn't prepared to use feeling good as the foundation for making choices? Similarly, depending on what model you prefer, he was neither congruent nor centred, and sees no reason to be so -- what do you do in such a case?
Source: http://www.nlpconnections.com/forum/14724-when-feeling-good-thought-bad.html
