Here’s an example of an unspecified adjective:

 ”Feel that special feeling.”

“Special?” How specifically is it special? Is that a good thing or a bad thing? Is it special because of it’s rarity? Are you saying “special” because it’s sinfully wonderful but you can’t say that? Especially with the unspecified noun that follows (a nominalization, actually), the speaker is leaving a LOT of room for interpretation.

Because it is unspecified, the speaker will not know exactly how the listener will interpret that sentence, but can be confident they will chose something special. In fact, if you’re doing a group induction everyone will feel something “special” and it might well be different for everyone, and yet they all feel as though you are talking directly to their experience.

Some other unspecified adjectives: (it is arguable that all adjectives are somewhat unspecific. Even if a person said “that was fantastic chile,” We wouldn’t really know exactly how good it was. Some adjectives are, however, more unspecified than others. Tonality will play a big role in the meaning communicated.)

fine (Melissa saw it in fine detail.)

memorable (They had a memorable evening.)

interesting (Helen had an interesting experience.)

challenging (Joel had a challenging teacher.)

fun (Annie sent a fun memo.)

You get the idea. Your being nonspecific does two things for you: 1. Your client will need to resolve the confusion that is engendered and 2. you will not be inadvertently speaking contrary to their experience.

Now go out there and practice with people. And have fun.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

As you may know, I offer a very high-quality coaching program for those students smart enough to sign up.

Part of that program includes monthly office hours; one Sunday out of each month I open up my cell phone for 90 minutes.  The next 90 minutes after that, members can talk to me on live video to video in my Megameeting on-line video conferencing system.

What you are about to read is a post that was made today on the member’s discussion board from a student, reporting how my advice really worked out for him.

Enjoy.

“Last month in the mega meeting, Ross challenged me to do 10 Manny Martian walkups. I wrote out a thousand dollar check to Greenpeace and sent it to him, to seal my commitment to getting over my inability to approach.

I had till June 1st. Ross threatened to kick me off if I didn’t do it, but if I did, I’d be invited to the next SS seminar! Last night, I did 3 walkups in a 15  minute burst; tonight I did my last 2.

It started out much more difficult than I imagined. It seemed like such a simple, stupid exercise, but it was a struggle at first. I went out several times without making a single approach. I made sure to transmute my frustration and learn from every outing though, and that was the key to my success! it made it easier to get back out into the field and it showed me that I needed to add in more fun/playful energy. I reinforced the beliefs almost daily and listened to the mp3s from this site as I drove each day.

Stuff I learned:

*It does get easier with practice. Walkup #5 was easier than #1, etc.

*I didn’t have a single negative response. Most were baffled, and asked me to repeat it. They were still baffled after that. I thanked them and walked off, and they still looked baffled, lol.

*I can maintain good eye contact with HBs.

*I increased the number of smiles I do. I feel more relaxed.

* Pre-sarge rituals get better with practice too.

* Post-sarge NYIG is golden. As is keeping a sarge journal.

* No one else in the world cares what I’m up to. When the walkups are over, life goes on, no big deal.

* Ross is brilliant: his learning mindset of focusing on what was done right is such a radically different orientation. It took me a while to warm up to the idea due to cultural conditioning, but once I got it, it changed how I see myself and the world…

Cream of the crop belief that also helped changed my mindset:

“I always start at the very least, from the very best I have done so far.” I plan on generalizing this belief out to the professional areas of my life.

My next step is to increase my aggressiveness and diminish my hesitation states. It’s very random: tonight I approached the first girl right away, but the second had me hesitating. When I get into that mode, it can take forever. Anyone have any tips for increasing my “just go for it” mentality?

Anyway, that’s it for now, thanks Ross, please rip up my check,

and F*** Greenpeace!
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Ok. RJ here again. Wasn’t that great? I really love it when guys get breakthrough results following my advice.  Look at how much this guy has not only changed his actions in the world, but his orientation towards focusing on what he is doing right and how he can continue to get better at it.  That’s one hell of a shift from where he was.

If you find yourself wanting to check out the coaching program, you can have a look for free right here.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S.  The Manny The Martian routine goes like this, “Hi. I just wanted to tell you(pause), my name, is Manny(pause) Martian(extend your hand to shake hers)  “What’s your favorite(pause)….flavor(pause)…bowling ball?”   It’s designed to get you off your ass and talking to women and to teach you that you can say the most dumb-ass, nonsense stuff and still get women to talk to you.