I have read a few self help books on conversation, NLP and tried a hypnosis CD for confidence, but am far from convinced. I know getting started is the hardest bit. I want to start with general chit-chat but my mind just goes blank. I think I should say Hi, then make a general comment about the environment, perhaps a compliment that’s not too personal. I sort of freeze up and don’t introduce myself and let the moment go by. I don’t drink, it’s been a prevalent problem in my family and I don’t want to follow suit, so I don’t want to hear any of this dutch courage nonsence.

If you have any suggestions or strategies (not examples like use a dating web site though) I would be very grateful. Thanks for reading.

Bob,

We all want something. When you want something, you can be humiliated and teased. Try talking to a woman you want nothing from, someone you do not find particularly attractive and are not after anything from. Just talk about whatever there is on your mind, or whatever you think is on her mind. (within reason of course, it is often necessary to be respectful and contextually correct)

When you have learned that the talking part is easy when you want nothing, you can progress towards expecting nothing. When you expect nothing, you can then talk to anyone the same way as when you want nothing.

It is particularly important of course, not to chase a person around so that you can have a chat about nothing. You have to chat with whoever you come across, but you can be selective and choose not to chat too.

I can’t say that this method has ever worked for me, but then it depends on the objective.

I have heard that it sometimes helps just to say whatever is on your mind, even if it is a bit rude. For example, one woman claimed that a bloke who came up to her in a disco and said "hey, you have a nic pair of tits", was refreshingly honest, and the conversation flowed from there.

Breaking the ice, and the barrier, is all about communicating on the level of the person you are speaking with. Speak their language, and you will win their mind.

I can say that that worked for me, in French at least!

James

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Please add more than just one or two books, and add them in the order I should read them

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