Welcome to the fourth part of the NLP Skills Polishing Programme learning to use presuppositions in language with purpose, I will continue to use the same themes as before to show you how to build in presuppositions and gain more understanding of how this might be useful to you and for you.
Recap:
Presuppositions:
One of the best ways that I have found to learn language patterns is to each and every day take one pattern and write out examples of that pattern for a current theme that is important to you in your “real life.” In this way, their use can become unconscious and automatic. I have heard that Richard Bandler required his NLP Practitioner students to write out 100 examples of each of these patterns. You may want to do that also.
By using presuppositions, we are able to make a statement and have basic assumptions contained in that statement accepted, unconsciously, as being true.
The real “power” of using presuppositions comes from using 3, 4 or more of them together. Of course, to be able to chain many presuppositions together means that we must first learn to use each one of them individually and then move on to grouping them together. It has been said that when 3 presuppositions are used in a row that it is impossible not to accept the embedded presuppositions/assumptions.
The themes that I will use in demonstrating each pattern, as we work through these exercises are:
1. “To be an excellent communicator you will need to learn the importance and use of non−verbal communication.”
Here I will presuppose that in order to be a good communicator you must know how to use the 93% of communication that is non−verbal and “Creating and maintaining rapport is critical to building or enhancing a relationship.”
2. Here I will presuppose that ” Getting and maintaining rapport is crucial to building a relationship.”
Pick one, two or more themes for yourself to use throughout the week or if you wish pick a different theme(s) for each language pattern − your choice.
Day 1 Practice using Change of State Verbs − (CHANGE, TRANSFORM, TURN INTO, BECOME)
Theme number 1:
It’s a well know fact that to transform your communication ability we need to learn and use non−verbal communication skills.
Theme number 2:
Even some of TV’s talk show hosts are beginning to know that creating and maintaining rapport is a critical factor in relationships.
For today practice using change of state verbs with your theme(s). Write out at least 5 examples for each theme(s).
Day 2 Practice using Factive Verbs and Adjectives − (ODD, AWARE, KNOW, REALIZE, REGRET, BELIEVE, PLEASED)
Theme number 1:
Are you aware that to be an excellent communicator it is important to know and use non−verbal communication skills.
Theme number 2:
Most people are not aware that creating and maintaining rapport is critical for relationship building.
For today practice using factive verbs and adjectives with your theme(s). Write out at least 5
examples for each theme(s).
Day 3 Practice using Commentary Adjectives and Adverbs − (LUCKY, FORTUNATELY, FAR OUT, OUT OF SIGHT, GROOVY, HAPPILY, NECESSARILY, REMARKABLE, INNOCENTLY)
Theme number 1:
Lucky for me, I learned early that non−verbal communication skills are vital for an excellent communicator.
Theme number 2:
It is remarkable how creating and maintaining rapport improves relationships in just minutes.
For today practice using commentary adjectives and adverbs with your theme(s). Write out at least 5 examples for each theme(s).
Day 4 Practice using Counter factual Conditional Clauses − (Verbs having subjective tense)
Theme number 1:
If John hadn’t learned non−verbal communication skills, he would not have become the excellent communicator that he is.
Theme number 2:
If Carol had known that creating and maintaining rapport was so critical to relationships she could have taken the training necessary.
For today practice using counter factual conditional clauses with your theme(s). Write out at least 5 examples for each theme(s).
Day 5 Practice using Contrary to Expectation − (SHOULD)
Theme number 1:
Should you not know how important non−verbal communication skills are, call me to get the next seminar date.
Theme number 2:
Should you not be totally happy with your relationships, learn about creating and maintaining rapport will be important for you to learn.
For today practice using contrary to expectation with your theme(s). Write out at least 5 examples for each theme(s).
How many of these presupposing statements can you notice naturally occurring in your day to day language?
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