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When something happens that takes you off course it can be an exciting time, lots of new discoveries can be made, even the realisation that you’re actually on track in a more real way than you were is possible. And when we are talking about large scale life goals or outcomes that can often be the case.
Plans are only accurate when you make them, the map is not the territory.
Orienteering brings this message home brilliantly, you may have the best maps, but the track on the map from A to B is not the territory, it doesn’t have the trees, the grass or the wildlife in it. It’s an approximation and it’s usefulness is decided upon once you’re actually there.
Is it useful?
How so?
In what way is it useful? Until that point it’s just a guess.
Don’t get me wrong, plans, goals and outcomes are important especially when you are taking control of your life and becoming the driver of the bus.
Without direction, effort, attention and determination to modify a behaviour it just will not happen.
And I think that these points are the ones that get missed most often. Yes NLP works fast and remember, any patterns of behaviour that you have and want to change have been practiced and applied for some time.
As you become aware of them you might decide to make a change, and the fact that you’ve just become aware of it means that it is a well rehearsed and practiced behaviour, otherwise you’d have spotted it sooner, right?
Remember to keep a sense of humour about it, when you realise you’ve gone back to the old behaviour have a smile, think of something silly that makes you feel good and as you consciously apply effort to your new outcome double the size of that good feeling until it’s a great feeling, then take action immediately with that great feeling and apply the new way of doing it.
You may have seen Ships in harbours, large and impressive resting gently on the rising tides. But ships are not designed to sit in a harbour, they’re designed to be out there cutting a path to it’s destination, travelling around gathering new information, learning new things along the way. They’re designed to be free of moorings and shackles and that can sometimes feel a little scary, but these things are designed to deal with stormy situations, they’re much tougher than you think.
Enjoy
Andy
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Source: http://www.andrewduffy.co.uk/nlp-tip-70-from-here-to-there/
